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°ÔÀÓÀ» À̲ô´Â Èû(Powers of Game)
1. ÁøÈ·ÐÀû ¹è°æÁö½Ä(Evolutionary Backdrop)
»ýÁ¸°ú ¹ø½Ä °¡Ä¡(Survival and Replication Value)
»çȸÀû À¯´ë(Social Alignments)
°¨Á¤(Emotions)
¹ÝÀÀ°ú »ó´ëÀû °¡Ä¡(Reaction and Relative Value)
³¶¸¸ÀûÀÎ »ç¶ûÀº °¡Ä¡¿¡ ±â¹ÝÇÑ´Ù(Romantic Love is Value-Based)
2. °ÔÀÓÀÇ °³¿ä(Overview of the Game)
1Â÷Àû °¨Á¤µé(The Primary Emotions)
°ü½É(Interest)
¹ÙÀ̺ê(Vibe)
¸Å·Â(Attraction)
À¯´ë°¨(Connection)
3. ÄðÇÔÀÇ ¼±(The Zen Of Cool)
À¯·É(The Ghost)
±¤Ã¤(The Flame)
4. Àü´Þ ¹æ½Ä(Delivery)
¹Ùµð·©±ÍÁö(Body Language)
¸ñ¼Ò¸® À½Á¶(Vocal Tonality)
Ç¥Á¤(Facial Expression)
5. ¾î¿ï¸®´Â ¹ý(How to Roll)
Áý ¹ÛÀ¸·Î ³ª°¡¶ó(Get Out of the House)
°ÔÀÓÀ» ¿¬½ÀÇ϶ó(Practive Your Game)
¾Æ¹ÙŸ¸¦ ±¸ÃàÇ϶ó(Build Your Avatar)
»çȸÀû Áõ°Å¸¦ Á¦½ÃÇ϶ó(Bring Social Proof)
°üÂû ´çÇÏ´Â »ç¶÷ÀÌ µÇ¾î¶ó(Be the Observed)
Á¸Àç ¹æ½Ä(The Way of Being)
ºÎÁ· ÁöµµÀÚÀÇ Æ¯Áú(Tribal Leader Characteristics)
6. ¹«°ü½É(Disinterest)
´Éµ¿Àû ¹«°ü½É(Active Disinterest)
ÀڰݹÚÅ» (³×±×) Disqualifers (Negs)
¼Õ »Ñ¸®Ä¡±â(Hand-Throws)
¹ÝÀÀ ÁÙÀ̱â(Under-Reacting)
¹«°ü½ÉÀ» ¾Õ¼¼ µå·¯³»±â(Preemptive Disinterest)
ÀÚ¸®¶ß±â(Roll-offs)
ÇÁ·¹ÀÓ ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏÁö ¾Ê±â(Disallowing Frames)
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ȸÇÇ(Avoidance)
Á¶¹Ù½É(Impatience)
ÅõÀÚ¸¦ ±âÇÇÇÔ(Failure to Invest)
ÀúÇ×(Resistance)
°ø°¨´ë Çü¼º ½ÇÆÐ(Breaking Rapport)
¹«½Ã(Disacknowledgment)
7. °ü½É(Interest)
±ÙÁ¢¼º(Proximity)
ÀÚ±â Ä¡Àå(Self-Grooming)
ÁÖÀÇ(Attention)
¹ÙÀÌºê ¹ß»ê(Vibing)
°¡Ä¡ Á¦½Ã(Value Offering)
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Á¢ÃË°ú ¾ÖÁ¤(Touching and Affection)
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Á¤¹ÐÁ¶Àý(Microcalibration)
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Àڰݺο©(Qualifiers)
8. Á¢±Ù(Approach)
Á¢±Ù¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Áöħ(Approach Guidelines)
ÀÇ°ß ¿ÀÇÁ³Ê¸¦ ³Ñ¾î¼(Beyond Opinion Openers)
¹Ùµð ¶ôÅ·(Body Rocking)
°ÅÁþ ½Ã°£ Á¦¾à(False Time Constraints)
9. ´ëÈÇϱâ(Making Conversation)
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´ëÈÀÇ ±âº»(Conversational Basics)
È£±â½É°ú Èï¹Ì(Curiosity and Intrigue)
À¯¸Ó(Humor)
¿ªÇÒ±Ø(Role-Playing)
¼ºÀû ±äÀå°¨(Sexual Tension)
ÁغñµÈ ¼ÒÀç(Canned Material)
½ºÅ丮ÅÚ¸µ(Storytelling)
»ç¿îµå ¹ÙÀÌÆ®(Sound Bites)
ÇÁ·¹ÀÓ ÄÁÆ®·Ñ(Frame Control)
10. ±×·ì ÀÌ·Ð(Group Theory)
¼ÂÀ» ¿ÀÇÂÇϱâ(Opening the Set)
¼ÂÀ» ³¬±â(Hooking the Set)
ÀÚ¸®Àâ±â(Locking-In)
Ÿ°Ù ¼±ÅÃ(Choosing a Target)
¹æÇØ Àι°ÀÇ ¹«Àå ÇØÁ¦(Disarming the Obstacles)
Áö¹èÀû À§Ä¡ Á¡Çϱâ(Holding Court)
¹æÇØ ¿äÀο¡ ´ëÇÑ ´ëó(Handling Interrupts)
À®À¸·Î¼ÀÇ ¿ªÇÒ°ú °í¸³(Winging and Isolation)
11. °á·Ð(Conclusion)
12. ³ëÆ®(Notes)
³·Àº °¡Ä¡ÀÇ Áõ¸í(The DLVs)
¿©¼ºÀ¸·ÎºÎÅÍ µè´Â ¼³¸í(Women Explained)
¿©¼ºÀ¸·ÎºÎÅÍ µè´Â ¼³¸í 2(Women Explained 2)
AMOG¸¦ »ó´ëÇÏ´Â Àü·«µé(AMOGs)
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À¯´ë°¨¿¡ °üÇÏ¿©(Connection Notes)
½¬¿î ¿©ÀÚ°¡ µÇÁö ¾ÊÀ¸·Á´Â ½É¸®(Anti-Slut Defense)
±×·²µíÇÑ ºÎÀαÇ(Plausible Deniability)
À§¹Ý ÀÌ·Ð(Violation Theory)
°¨»çÀÇ ¸»(Acknowledgments)